Monday, 29 January 2018

What does the future have in store for me now?:

As mentioned in a previous blog post (My Peruvian life has had some big changes) I became single one day before Christmas last year and because of it being forced to rethink my entire existence here in South America. Have to say that I kinda saw the breakup coming, but in no way did it soften the blow. We had our problems and you can say that it culminated in what happened on the 23rd of December. Anyway, I moved to Peru back in 2016 because I wanted to live with my family, but now that the relationship has ended I have had to go quite a few rounds with my self to try to find out what I want to do next. As I see it right now, I have two options to choose between. Both of them includes some type of adventure.

The first options that I have are to stick around here in Peru and to continue building a life for my self here. It would be a lie if I said that this option is not tempting me in one way or the other and I would be close to my son. The other option that I have is to leave Peru and set out on a brand new adventure. I have to say that this option is the one that tempts me to most. Because I am always “hungry” for a new adventure, but this is an option that will force me to return to Norway for a period of time. The detail of my potential return to my native country is both a good and a bad thing. It has been a while since last time I was back home and there are a few things that I miss more or less constantly.

As mentioned, both options in one way or the other trigger something “inside” of me. Differently, but I like them both. I have kinda made up my mind on what option I want to go for. After going through all the pros and cons, I have decided on the second option, setting out on a new adventure. The biggest drawback on this one is that I have to be separated from my son for a period of time, only while I am back home in Norway working and putting money aside for the next step. It is what comes after my return to Norway that is the exciting part. Because the idea that I am working out from right now is that the main goal is to move to the U.S and California. This is if I get the visa that is needed to do it of course.

Why have I chosen the U.S out of so many exciting destinations? For me, it is a natural progression in my journey through life and I have many excuses for it too. The most important one is that a few of my American friends have invited me to come and live there. This got mentioned as fast as they got the news about the brutal Christmas breakup and it really got me going in a positive way. Another reason is that I have been dreaming about living there for as long as I can remember, but never thought it would be something I actually would do. I guess that most of us that have been watching Hollywood movies have thought about how it would be to actually live there, to live the “American dream”.

At the same time, I see this as a perfect opportunity to take my blog on the road and transfer it to a proper travel and adventure blog, with a more personal twist on it. So the plan is that I now will return to Norway and get everything ready for the new adventure, but it's not like I am going to take my suitcase and leave this amazing country tomorrow. As it seems like right now I will be sticking around until May or June and while staying here I will be looking for work. Right now I cannot be picky when it comes to what kind of work I will be applying for. As long as it pays okay and is in Oslo area, I am kinda good with it. I would prefer to work within any of the areas that I have already worked with, but not a must.

So this is how my plans for the future looks like right now. I will be staying in Peru until May or June, then I will be returning to Norway for work and preparing everything and hopefully, before Christmas time I will be in the U.S with my son. In all of this, there is one thing that I do not have any control over and that is the visa part. I will need to apply for it just as anyone else and they can deny me the visa for any given reason, that is also why I am not that blunt about this. I am optimistic, but I am not taking it for granted. I can be left with no California adventure in the end, who knows what the future has in store for me at this point?

There is one thing that I want to address before ending this blog post and that is my absence on my blog and channel especially. This is kind of complicated in many ways because after the break up I have more or less lived the life of a nomad up to now. Have been “jumping” from sofa/bed to sofa/bed with very unstable access to the internet. This has made it difficult for me to keep up with the publishing schedule I had set for my self. A schedule that had a minimum of one post on my blog a week and a couple of videos for my channel. Luckily for me, this has changed now after moving all our stuff to an apartment in Lima, yes I am still living with my ex.

Anyway, I hope this blog post fell in good taste with you and that you will check out my other sites on the internet. Sites like Youtube (Beyond the Horizon), my Twitter (Beyond the Horizon) and my Instagram (Beyond the Horizon). I would appreciate it if you checked my sites out and subscribe/follow, even sharing my content with friends and family. I am at the starting line when it comes to things like that and really need all the support I can get. So thank you for taking time in your busy everyday life to stop by and checking out my blog, do hope you did enjoy this post and that I will see you back in time for my next one.

Wednesday, 3 January 2018

My life in Peru really changed during Christmas:

In my previous blog post (Welcome to my new blog, Beyond the horizon) I spent most of it introducing me and my blog, plus trying to explain to you guys my intentions or plans with it. Originally it was supposed to be all about Peru and my new life here. Let's say that I wrote most of its content back in late October or early November when things were more normal around me. Because things have changed drastically since then, but I haven't felt like changing much of its content when it was time to publish it earlier this week. All I have done is proofread and change a few words that I used, wanted to keep the optimism and my state of mind.

Back then it seemed like I had a “bright” future here in Peru with my family and we were still planning or talking about setting a final date for the big day (our wedding), we were planning to start our own business and talking about having more kids in the future. All of this changed in late December, the 23rd to be more precise. You can say that I got the “talk” and had the dear John letter moment that day.. So day before Christmas my relationship ended kind of brutally. Not that I have not been aware of that something were wrong with us lately. Because I have, but I have been believing that these issues have been fixable.

Ever since the breakup I have been spending my days trying to figure out what actually happened and to see if it were fixable, I did not want to give up on the relationship right away. The result I got from my “search” is that it's about time for me to move on and look for new adventures. It's not like I want to give up, but the search result does not give me any other options. Right now it does not seem like it is fixable anyway, who knows how it will look in the future? I am not saying that I will re-join the dating game because this is something that I am far from ready for. The wounds from the breakup are still too fresh and I still do love my ex-fiance way too much.

So what does this breakup mean for me and my newly released blog? For me, it means that I have to relocate again. Truth be told, the only thing that could keep me from leaving Peru is my baby boy (he is not a baby, but its a nickname I have for him) and the never-ending love I have for him. At the same time, I do love this country and I wish that I could see a future for my self here right now, something I am not able to do right now. This can change with time when I get some distance from the breakup and the pain I am feeling right now. My focus right now is naturally with my son and my own future. What the future has in store for me is hard to predict. One thing is for sure, there will be new adventures for me.

I am not going to close the door on anything and who knows, things can change for me here. Maybe even my ex-fiance will change her mind on all of this? If not I will be leaving in the near future, but the question is where. Right now I have several options. I could do the easy thing and move back to Norway, I can go back to the Philippines or jump on one of the many invites that I have gotten since these past few days. One of the invites is to move to California. The last one is really tempting for me because I have been a few times to the US and I have always had a fantasy about living there, but never seen a way to.

So what does all of this mean for my blog? Well truth be told, I am far from about to give up on this dream. My world might be crumbling around me right now, but I will do everything that I can to keep it alive. I am not about to give up on the blog when it seems like I am about to set off on a new exciting/scary adventure. All of this just makes the blog even more relevant and a way to keep my mind occupied. This way you guys can my new adventure as it happens, both here and on my Youtube channel. There is a saying when life gives you a lemon you make lemonade and this is what I am trying to do right now.

To jump shortly back to the breakup part, I am done feeling sorry for my self and burying my self in depression, because that does not lead anywhere good, but more misery for mine. End of a relationship is not an easy thing to work through, but staying positive and keeping your self-busy is the medicine that I am trying to use in this case. I want to focus on what is ahead of me and try to enjoy the days I spend with my son. I am excited about the adventure part. There will be a lot of them in the future. They won't be from Peru, but an adventure is an adventure and I hope you guys will enjoy what is coming in the future. Just wanted to update you guys on what has happened at my end during Christmas.

Monday, 1 January 2018

Welcome to my new blog, Beyond the horizon:

Hello ladies and gentlemen of the internet, it does seem like I am having the great honor of welcoming you into my very own private corner here on the world wide web. I do appreciate that you're taking the time to stop by and checking out my blog. So let's get straight to the introduction of my self. My name is HÃ¥var (for the simplicity of it you can call me Howard since this it is the English version of my name), but online I do prefer to use my alias Jack Bowler or just Jack. My friends do prefer to call me Jack, which is okay by me, this is a topic that deserves an explanation and I will revisit later in this blog post.

I am a 40ish-year-old Norwegian male (born in 1975) who is currently living in Peru and has done so since mid-2016. Here I am living with my tiny family (my son and fiance). Yes, my friend you did read correctly, I have moved from my safe haven back in Norway to South America to live the exciting and challenging life as an immigrant here in Peru. Why do you ask? The most important reason for this is simply my family and as a secondary is that I always had this special fascination with this part of the world. Always wanted to travel and experience all that the region has to offer.

So who am I as a person and what do I prefer to fill my everyday life in the form of activities and such? As it goes with the standard mundane days of the week, these are mostly spent on being a stay at home dad. The main reason that I am staying at home with my son right now is basically that I am still getting used to my surroundings and learning the language (that is Spanish, by the way). The language part is something I have been struggling with so far. For some strange reason, it does not seem to stick as quickly as I expected before moving, thankfully people around me have been extremely patient with me and my slow progress. I will get there sooner or later, I hope.

When I have time to just spend with my self or daddy time as it's called I do enjoy wasting it on computer games (these days it's more like getting lost in games on my PS4 and games like Grand Theft Online and Fishing planet). I am an avid gamer. At the same time, I have a big fascination for photography, or as I call it capturing the small moments in everyday life. When the opportunity arises I never say no to spend time outdoors. Either it is just walking around in the city, going hiking in the woods or spend hours and hours on real-life fishing. As a typical native Norwegian, I do enjoy fishing and hunting but do prefer fishing.

If there is one thing that I love to do when time and finances allow it is traveling and exploring new cultures. This is a fascination that brought me here to South America from the start of. I had crossed off North America and a big portion of Europe, so when I got introduced to my now fiance there were no doubts about what I wanted to do. Had to make the trip to Peru and at least experience this part of the world. Well during my “introduction” trip I managed to fall in love with this country and ever since there has been an urge to move here or at least live here for a period.

When it comes to my blog and its content. What kind of plans do I have for it?. To be completely honest I want to focus on sharing my everyday experience as an immigrant to this amazing country. How it is to live or visit this part of the world. Simply put, this blog will contain tips, photos, videos, stories and more, but I can promise you one thing. I am not going to sugar coat anything. I will strive to portrait it as realistic as possible. In other words, I won't photoshop any of my photos and I won't leave out any negative details when I am writing a blog post. Not that I think or believe that the Peruvian people have anything to be ashamed of.

When it comes to the intensity of post publishing, this is something I am unsure about right now. To have it mentioned, I am not used to this and do believe that I will need a getting used to follow a write and publishing schedule. Do not want to set the bar too high, so start with one post a week and take it from there more or less. As of now, I will try to update my blog with a new post every Wednesday. That way I will have more than enough time to get all the photos and videos that I potentially need, fact-checking the content and try to proofread the text. Naturally, I want to avoid to publish blog posts that have incorrect information in it.

In the beginning of this post, I mentioned that I prefer to use my alias when it comes to my online activities and that I would explain this. So why am I using the alias Mr. Bowler and/or Jack Bowler? This is actually a kinda funny story. It started with my love for hats. Yes, I love to use hats. So with my first attempt on Youtube, I went for the name Mr. Bowler, with time this has in many ways snowballed for me.  So now when I open a new online account the name follows me.

By the way, on GTA online I use Jack Bowler that is inspired both by my fascination for hats as mentioned and the TV show 24 (Jack Bauer). I have been a fan of the show ever since the very first episode and some of the seasons have been watched more than once. I hope this explanation makes sense for you, if not let me know and I will try to do a better job. Not that this will have any impact on my blog, but it is a detail that makes me who I am. At the same time, if you have any question about the topics that I cover or if there are any special topics you want me to cover, please do let me know and I will do my best to follow it up.

I want to end this blog post by thanking you guys for taking the time to check out my blog and reading this post, at the same time I hope you have enjoyed the reading. Before you close this page I do hope you also will check out my Youtube channel (Beyond the Horizon), Facebook page (Beyond the Horizon) and Twitter account (Beyond the Horizon). Usually, update these sites with content that does not find its way to my blog. If you want to contact me you can either do that through Twitter, Facebook or by mail. So until my next blog post, remember to stay safe and I do hope to see you back for my next update.

Btw the photos that I am using in this blog post is from my hometown (Kristiansund) I kinda felt it was a perfect opportunity to show off where I am from, just to give the blog the right kick off.