Friday, 29 March 2019

My personal experience as a single expat here in Peru:

Photo credit: Talmoryair
Greetings ladies and gentlemen of the greater world wide web. Today we have finally arrived at the end of another work week and for most of us, it also means the beginning of a two-day break from everyday life's hassle and dassel. So tell me, do you have any major plans for this weekend or are you going to take it as it comes? Winging it as they say. When it comes to me, then it's business as usual. Something that means all work and no play, but I am not complaining since this is how I like it. Anyway, maybe its time for me to get started on today's topic? I guess you see from the headline of this post where I am heading today? Sharing some of my dating experience here in Peru.

Okay, before I continue on today's post, I feel like there are a few things that I need to address, let's call it a disclaimer of the sort. First of all, I am not writing this post to brag about any female conquests of mine. This is not my intention at all. Neither am I focusing on this topic to talk bad about Peruvian females, far from it. Because when all come to all, I can not think of anything directly negative. Not more than what I am used to back home in Norway, anyway. To be completely honest, I love Latinas. I know it can sound bad, but it is as respectful as it can be. For me its all about preferences. Despite this, I have had some weird experiences while being single here in Peru.

Yes, I have had a period here in Peru where I have been single. Not that I am going to go to deep into this part of the story, but I was a single dad from December 2017 to July 2018. To be honest and as mentioned in a previous blog post, the first weeks were hard to handle, but I do owe a lot of gratitude to my then ex-fiances family that really came through for me at my lowest. Her dad and uncle came and came for a visit to bring me into Lima so I didn't have to be sitting alone in my empty apartment. So why am I retelling this part of the story? The reason for this is that it's here where my dating experience actually starts. Because when we arrived at the apartment of my ex-uncle inlaw I was quickly introduced to a friend of his wife.

She was a perfectly nice lady in all possible ways, but naturally, I was not at the point where I wanted to commit to a new relationship. The big mistake on my part was that we more or less drank alcohol every single day and when you are under the influence of alcohol things has a tendency to feel a lot different than when you er sober. I hope you know where I am heading with this? Because at a point it did develop some real feelings between us, at least on my part. A couple of weeks later I moved to Magdalena del Mar with my ex-fiance. Yes, we were still living together, despite the breakup, mostly for convenience and our beloved baby prince.

It is at this point that things actually start to escalate for me. Since I had moved pretty far away from where this lady lives I started to check out different dating apps that I installed on my phone. No, I am not going to mention which ones, let's keep them a secret for now at least. At that point I really wasn't looking for something serious, just browsing profiles and looking for someone to talk with. Yes, the naive Norwegian were just looking for someone to talk with on a dating app. After a short, while I came in contact with maybe three or four females, we exchanged phone numbers and started texting and talking on a daily basis. Have to say that I really connected with only two of them.

For some time after that, I came in touch with even more ladies, but it always ended up with these two. Mainly because we had such a good connection. One of them was at that point in time in a long distance relationship and we were only platonic friends anyway. At one point we actually talked about spending Valentine's day together, since both of us didn't have anything better to do on that day. It didn't happen, why I am really not sure. With time, I ended up going on dates with both of them. Not anything major. Meeting over a cup of coffee, taking a nice walk while talking and things like this. I wasn't really ready for a more serious relationship anyway. Still hoping to fix the broken relationship.

What I didn't know or pick up right there and then was the fact that one of the girls, maybe even both of them had developed romantic feelings for me. To such a degree that if I didn't meet her she would throw a tantrum I have never witnessed in my life. With time things started to improve between me and my ex-fiance. Because of that I kinda stopped contact with them both. So I could focus fully on what we're starting to develop between me and my ex. Yes, I did let her know and I did my best to do it in a soft way as possible, but it's here were the crazy or weird part comes in to play for me. Because from what I understand she didn't take it that good. The other one just got angry and told me to …...

The girl that had developed romantic feelings for me really changed her character drastically. From being this nice and comfortable ladies, to straight out a stalker. Luckily for me, I never told her exactly where I lived because that would have been unpleasant for me and my family. What I have found out is that she started to spend time in the area that we usually had our walks just to see if she could “randomly” bump into me at some point or get a glimpse of me at a distance. How do I know that this happened? She told me in a series of text later on. When we finally moved out of Magdalena I felt a relief, since now she wouldn't know where to find me, was I wrong.

To put things in a better context for you guys. I “broke” things off with this girl in May of 2018 (we weren't really a couple in my eyes) and we had random contact through messenger from time to time. Something that she instigated, by the way, but for the most part, I looked at things as ended in a good way. So when we moved to San Miguel in December of 2018 things had cooled completely down, but all of a sudden two weeks after moving into our new apartment I get a photo message from her. It was of me having a cigarette break on my porch. She had actually managed to find out where we lived and approached the building and taken this photo of me. That really scared me.

I confronted her about this and she brushed it aside that she was there by some random event and saw me standing there. At this point, I had not told her that I was back with my ex since I didn't look at it as her business at all. Actually very few of my friends and family knew about it. So she tried to tell me this story that she was dating this guy from Canada that travelled between Peru and Canada every month. Her claim was that he had some kind of business in Lima. So I told her, cool and that I was happy for her, that she should stop contacting me to focus fully on him. Nothing would happen between us anyway, but after a lot of back and forth, she came clean. That she had made it up to make me jealous.

At this point, I was angry, scared and worried. Worried and scared about what she could do next and angry because I felt my privacy had been intruded. Our new apartment didn't feel that safe anymore because of her. My lucky strike was when she decided to check my blog and found out that I and my ex had gotten together again. At that point, she just said, wow and she is happy about you guys moving to Huaral and everything. After that, I never heard from her again, luckily. Our last contact was a few days before the moving truck came to take our stuff to where we live now. Right now I am pretty sure that she has given up, but trust me, having a stalker isn't fun. Been there before, but this time I felt it was way closer to my body if you know what I mean by that?

On top of this, another flirt of mine from a year back has now re.surfused, but now I have just said it straight out. I am back with my ex and we are doing better than ever. Not entirely true, but we are doing great and trying to work things out between us. Things like this are always hard work, especially when we have gone through what we have. Anyway, I am that type that really goes to extreme lengths to avoid saying things that might hurt someone's feelings, it doesn't matter who this person is, the last thing I would want to is to hurt her or his feelings. This is something that has brought me into many difficult situations, similar to this one and it seems like I am unable to learn from my experience.

I am glad that my dating days are over now and that things ended as it did with me and my current girlfriend, fiance, and wife to be. Yes, I am planning to reask her the big question. I know that she is waiting for it. we are actually making big plans for the future and to be honest, it makes me extremely happy. Not just for me, but for my son as well. So my conclusion from all of this is pretty simple. Being single and dating here in Peru can get pretty crazy. It's not that, I have had some very good experiences as well. Gotten to know some pretty nice people and a halfway crazy one, but I have broken contact with every single one of the now or I did that a good while back.

To be completely honest, it wouldn't be right of me to keep in touch with my flirts since I am back with my girlfriend. Not that I think she would mind, but it would be weird for me. So my tip to you, if you are thinking about joining the South American dating game. My advice to you is careful and use common sense, leave your blue eyes or naivety back home in Europe or the U.S. This is because dating down here is on a whole different level. The females are more aggressive, more territorial and a lot more jealous. Just to have it said, I have nothing bad to say about Latinas or Hispanic ladies, just that they can be more than a handful. It's my experience

Anyway, I guess its time for me wrap this post up and get it ready to get published on my blog. I hope you enjoyed reading about my experience being single and in the dating game here in Peru. I might have messed up the entire post, but at least I hope you found it enjoyable and maybe even informative at some point. If you did like it, why not check me out on social media? My Facebook is (Beyond the Horizon), my Twitter is (Beyond the Horizon), Instagram (Beyond our Horizon) and on Youtube (Beyond the Horizon 2.0). I do hope to see you there as well guys, I do post content that never will be published on my blog. Until next time, hope to see you back for my next post and remember to stay safe.

Monday, 25 March 2019

We are planning an exciting family trip to Arequipa:

El volcán Misti sobre Arequipa ( Photo credit: Los viajes del Cangrejo )
Greetings ladies and gentlemen of the world wide web. The weekend is over and ahead of us awaits a brand new week filled with inspiration and amazing opportunities. So tell me, did the two days off from work meet your expectations? I for sure hope so and maybe you even got to make some lasting memories as well? When it comes to myself, I can't really say that I have any reasons to complain, it turned out almost to the letter how I planned it. As usual, it has been almost all work and no play. I haven't even found time to play my favorite computer game either. That is usually something that I do at the end of Sundays workday. Not that I am complaining, it just means I have gotten things done. I do believe that you agree with me on this point, right?

Okay, maybe it is time to get started with today's topic? Well, this time around I do have some amazing travel news for you guys because our small Peruvian family are now talking and planning a trip to one of the most exciting towns and cities here in Peru, Arequipa as its name. The reason for this trip has many reasons, but the most important one for me is more exploration of this fascinating country that I am currently living on. The secondary is the part of the visiting family of my girlfriend. To be honest, this is a city that I have been wanting to visit for as long as I have lived here, but never gotten around to do it. For many logical reasons, that I have decided to leave out for now.
Skyline of Arequipa city ( Photo credit: JuanesL893145 )
We have not managed to decide on a point in time when this trip is going to happen but in the very near future. On the other hand, what we have been talking about is making it a May or June adventure and get there by bus to extend and maximize the experience. More or less like we did when we went to Tumbes back in 2016. The entire journey from Lima to Tumbes and back to Lima took about a week, but it was worth every second of it. On top of the Tumbes 1 week experience we really bonded as a family, back then I had just returned to Peru. Think I had stayed here for something like 3 months or so and as an extra bonus I had the pleasure of introducing my girlfriend to the world of traveling. That trip had its focus on me renewing my visa.

So why am I so excited this time around and why Arequipa? The first thing that comes to mind is that I have never been there and has as mentioned had a need to go there. Another thing is the historical role it has played in Peru's history, especially after its independence from the Spanish crown. A third thing is an amazing architecture the city has to offer a “tourist” like me. A fourth thing is that I really need a trip and an adventure right now. I haven't been anywhere since we moved to Lima back in late 2017, not that I count that as an adventure in itself, but it became one with all that happened around it. Not that I am going to dwell on that part of my past, got too many good things happening now and in the future for that.

Church of the Jesuits (Photo credit: Arteyvista )
All I really can say is, this is one adventure that I am insanely excited about and finally I am able to take my blog and channel out on the road. This way I am able to show you guys something more than just the greater Lima area, as I have been doing for more or less the past 16 months. It's not the reason for us planning this trip, but as I see it a good excuse for it tho. Think about all the exciting and amazing posts and videos that will come out of it. For those who haven't visited Peru yet and only seen in through my blog, you will see different parts of the country as well. Anyway, if you want to learn more about the city, why not visit their Wikipedia page (Arequipa on Wikipedia)?

To be completely honest, it's not much that I know about the city of Arequipa. The few things I do now has been acquired by self-studies over the years, but it does seem like a very exciting adventure destination for this tiny Peruvian family. Anyway, guys, I only wanted to give you guys this exciting news and hope you have something to look forward to, together with me. I also hope you enjoyed this semi-short blog post and that you will follow me on social media as well. Well, you can find me on Facebook (Beyond the Horizon), Twitter (Beyond the Horizon), Instagram (Beyond our Horizon) and on Youtube (Beyond the Horizon 2.0). Until next time, remember to stay safe and take care of your self.

Wednesday, 20 March 2019

Our lives are finally returning to normal after summer:

Greetings ladies and gentlemen of this amazing intraweb. Today I have to once again say, wow how time seems to fly these days. We have now gotten to Wednesday and the middle of the week while I am apparently still stuck on Mondays work-load, like this blog post as an example. The truth is that I had made plans for this post to go live on Monday night, but here I am still working on it. Reading through it and re-writing the text. For some reason, I am not able to become satisfied with this post, always something I feel like changing or re-wording. I bet most fellow bloggers out there understand my current struggle? Anyway, it wasn't my intention to spend half the post whining or ranting but had to get it out of the system in a way

For the past couple of months or so the students or kids have been on a summer break from school and it has been a blast, for the most part, do not misunderstand me. It has been great, but at the same time, I have to say that it feels great that things are falling into its place and back to how it should be. I know that I might come off as a bit of a bad dad in this post, but trust me, there is nothing in this world that I love more than my own kids. As mentioned it has been a blast having my son running like a tornado around me at home, when we are out and stuff like that. He is in many ways my best friend. At the same time, I do appreciate a great deal the security of everyday life.
Do not know what it is, but I really enjoy walking my son to school dropping him off and a few hours later make the journey back to pick him up. This kind of things kinda gives me the stability that I feel the need for. A reason to get up in the morning and stay focused during the day. At the same time, it actually gives me more time to focus on all the things that I need to do during the day and week. The fact that returning to normal routines is a blessing for me as a person and this is something that I have really noticed the past few days. I have once again gotten it confirmed that the best version of me is when I have fixed frameworks in my life. Do believe my girlfriend can confirm this as well.

Here comes a funny and strange detail when it comes to this situation. We as a family actually get more time to spend together when we have a lot on our plates than when we have all days to do whatever we want. Is this just us or is this something that other parents are experiencing in their daily life? Maybe its because we have to plan our days better or something like that? Anyway, as mentioned, finally things are returning to normal routines for our little family here in Peru and that means for some reason more quality time together as a family. To do things that a normal family should do together, as we did on Monday. We went to a brand new burger place here in Huaral and I finally succeeded in opening my son's eyes for my love of cheeseburgers.
We also had the same cheeseburger last night actually. I don't know what it is, but I love fast food and street food. On top of everything now we are talking about taking weekends trip, to Lima and other cities nearby. We are also talking about and planning a much longer trip later this year, to the city called Arequipa. That's the old capital city of Peru, but I guess this is a story for a different day and blog post. So I promise that there will be a return to this topic later on. I am actually planning to have it ready for Monday next week, so you know in advance about it and I have the pressure to actually follow my planned schedule. Anyway, our baby boy is back in school and has started in 3rd grade. Growing really fast, that's scary.

I kinda went off track here for a while, but I guess its side topics that kinda goes well with the main one, at least I hope it does. This Friday will be a busy one, first, we are moving to a different, but larger apartment in the building. Not to forget with a much better view as well. So when all our stuff has been moved to the new apartment the plan is that we are going to Lima, to celebrate the birthday of a friend of ours. That is if everything goes according to plans. Especially that part if I get all my work done and this one is the big if, but I would really love to go, not just for the party either. I feel the need to get out and do something else for a couple of days.
Actually, the positive side when it comes to my son's new school is that they do not have any homework. They do it during school hours, the kids stay longer, but the end result is that the kids do not have that stress at home and yes its a private school. Wouldnt wants it any other way really. Longer days, but better quality on education as well and in a country like Peru that is extremely important. The best part of the new school is that he is looking forward to every single day, even waking up before mom and dad. One cant argues with these facts, can I? Anyway, I am enjoying the change in his look on going to school in the morning, he really seems to love it.

Now that things are getting back to normal and my baby boy is back in school, I hope that this means I find more time to do the things that I need to do for my blog and channel. Just trust me on this one, I have like a ton of ideas for both platforms. Anyway, I guess its time for me to wrap this post up and get it up on the blog. Do remember to check me out on social media. I would appreciate it, especially if you decided to follow me there. So you can find me on Facebook (Beyond theHorizon), on Twitter (Beyond the Horizon), Instagram (Beyond our Horizon) and on Youtube (Beyond the Horizon 2.0). I do hope to see you there, I post stuff there that never gets even close to my blog and these sites get updated every single day!

Friday, 15 March 2019

5 street foods you have to try while visiting Peru:

Greetings ladies and gentlemen of the great world wide web. So how are you guys and girls doing on this awesome day? Good, I hope. When it comes to me, I really do not have any reason to complain at all. I would say the sun is shining and life is great. Anyway, today I felt like it was about time for me to revisit a topic that has more or less been laying dormant so far this year and what I am thinking about are my top 5 travel list posts. This time around I wishes to focus on a topic that is very near and dear to my foodie's heart. Yes, you are correct, I am going to focus on yet another food list, but this time around its fast food or Peruvian street foods as I want to call it. My belly doesn't lie, I love food and especially fast food. So let's get started.

Papa rellena: I have to put this one as number one for many reasons, but the most important one is that it's an amazing dish, at least when you get used to it. It took a while for me to be honest and the reason for that is because I felt it was overly dry. This dish is pretty simple and contains very few ingredients. You take a potato (in this case potato paste) and fill it with meat, onions, olives and a hard-boiled egg and then “throw” it in the frying pan. On the side you can have either rice or a salad, I prefer a light salad. This is a perfect meal on the run or as a snack for that matter, but you won't be able to eat that many of them. A potato like this is very filling in itself. I max out on two of these fried potatoes.
Anticucho (photo credit: Manuel González Olaechea)
Churros de manjar: I am not sure how I would categorize this one. My food heart wants to say it is a light snack, but my brain would say it a Spanish breakfast. Because this snack or dish comes originally from Spain and back in the “old country” this is a typical breakfast. To explain this dish a bit better, this is a deep-fried pastry dough filled with some type of chocolate and sprinkled with sugar. Yes, it's very sweet and this is also why I am having problems putting it into the breakfast category, simply because I am not used to eating something sweet as a meal. As a snack yes, but not as a complete meal. Do not misunderstand me, I do love it, but as a hot snack on the move.

Anticuchos: To be completely honest, this is the one that so far has given me the biggest problem to get used to. Again not because of how it tastes, but this time around the thought of what kind of meat they use to make this dish. You can say that it has its similarities with the better-known dish, shish kebab but the anticuchos has its origin from the Andes mountains. The dish in itself is pretty simple, meat marinated in vinegar and spices (usually cumin, aji pepper and garlic). The meat that is used for this dish is a beef heart, but you can without any problems replace it with regular beef. It's not my go-to street food, but I will eat it if someone offers it to me. I have gotten used to the idea of eating heart after moving here.
Churros de manjar (photo credit: Enano275)
Arroz con leche: This is a “dish” that most of you are familiar to, the English word for it is rice pudding and you find it all over the world in one form or other. When it comes to Arroz con leche it is the other category that makes it special. Its when it becomes Arroz con leche mazamorra morada it becomes typical Peruvian in my eyes. If you are curious about what this mazamorra part is I will be linking to an external website that can explain this a lot better than me. Basically, when you combine these dishes it becomes something that locally is called the Peruvian flag and you have to take my word on it, its deliciously sweet. Its the perfect combination of rice, milk and corn.

Marciano's de Lucuma: Okay, I have to be completely honest on this one. My girlfriend threw this one at me and I spent ages on google trying to find out what this dish was for something. I could not wrap my head around this one and could not remember when I had tried this one, but it dawned on me when I came over one simple photo. It's my popsicle in a plastic bag and its amazingly refreshing. If I am not mistaken, you can use whatever fruit you want with this one, even chocolate or pure milk and put it in your fridge for a few hours. You can actually make this one your self and as mentioned so simple and delicious. My girlfriend even made this for me while we lived in Magdalena del Mar. I would say that this one is a perfect end on a perfect street food meal, just take my word on it.
Arroz con leche (photo credit: Dtarazona )
This is my top 5 Peruvian street foods or snacks. I know that I have been throwing around a lot of strange names and such today, but I am including as many external links on this as I can so you are in the position to experience it your self. Even if you are not planning to make a trip to Peru yourself. Some of them are in English and some of them are in Spanish, but luckily for us, we have google translate, but of course, I do hope you can make the trip to experience all of this first hand. It's all fun and exciting to read about other peoples experience, but nothing like experiencing it yourself. I would recommend it very strongly. Not just for the food, but for the full package, if you understand what I mean by that?

Anyway, I hope you have enjoyed reading this blog post because I have been enjoying it a great deal. Has been a struggle to complete it, but all in all a fun experience once again that got me thinking a way too much on food right now. So if you enjoyed reading this post, why not check me out on social media? You can find me on Facebook (Beyond theHorizon), on Youtube (Beyond the Horizon 2.0) on Twitter (Beyond theHorizon) and on Instagram (Beyond our Horizon). On these social media platforms, you will normally see me post things that never end up on my main project, that is this blog. So why not drop by and say hello, you might be lucky and find content that you will enjoy there as well? So until my next post, stay safe and enjoy life.